The world is looking pretty gloomy in all respects and while this is not something that has been a non pattern for the past few thousand years, it has hit a sharp curve in the graph of ‘gloomy dispositions’. For one thing, the world economy has gone down the toilet and a lot of us have been affected by this. Spending has gone down, people have lost their jobs and companies are threatening worst times in the horizon.

The first thing that you need to do is to get yourself out of the situation of being confused and battered in your life and to do this, you need to take a step back and take stock of the situation that is your life. More than likely, your life is a mess, and it is a mess because you have allowed yourself to slip in and out of disastrous situations and let yourself come upon wall upon wall of negativity. You need to take a deep breath and meditate. Remember that thing in your chest you call your heart? When was the last time you have listened to it? What needs to be done is you need to internalise yourself and calm yourself down. Listen to the rhythm of your heart and slow it down a minute and take a pause. Look at your life from a top down perspective and from there, you can identify what has been going wrong with your life.

What this statement means is that the tools to rebuild your self esteem is actually within us. We have the faculties needed to put back the light in the dark within us, and make us the confident and elated person that we were always were in the first place. There are many things we can talk about to say what causes low self esteem, and this phenomenon can be traced all the way back to when we were children and the things that we were exposed to and the things that we were told by the people around us.

Step 1.
Take a deep breath. There is a lot of clutter in the brain right now and plenty of negative thoughts that are getting in the way of you thinking clearly. What you need now is mental focus, focus that you need to pierce through the clouds of doubt in your head and then transport yourself to a place of peace where you can sort yourself out and think about the things in your life that matter to you. Breathing exercises allow you to focus on your mind and breathe in. By using breathing exercises, you are able to meditate in the same way that practitioner use to clear their own mind. One thing you need to understand about the state of mind is that people with low self esteem have plenty of things in their mind, things that are dragging them down to a level that is way beyond their potential.

One of the major symptoms of low self esteem that you need to know about is low self confidence and this pervades everything about a person that has low self esteem. A person that has low self esteem, for one thing, will always try to avoid making social contact with other people, and this is not to say that they attribute the same symptoms as autistic; they are perfectly able to contend with other people in social situations and make friends, but they are unable to do anything that is above or beyond a moderate social situation.

There are many ways to build self esteem in anyone, and there is actually a sort of shopping list of things you can do to reach into your personality and up the level of your self esteem. People with low self esteem are easily recognizable, they often shy away from social situations because they think that they are not good enough to be in the circle, they often avoid things like confrontations with other people because they often feel they do not have the skill sets or the confidence necessary to take on other people.

One of the more popular self esteem tests that exist within the psychological circles is the ten question battery test, which is modeled after many of the older self esteem tests in the psychological world of old, and has and shares the same principles. The popular methods nowadays actually measure things like implicit self esteem, which can be done with the Name Letter Task, as well as the Implicit Association Test. Another test is the Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale, which measures the actual self esteem within a person through questionnaires. These questions have been sculpted for the very purpose of assessing the cognitive elements within the psyche of a person, using that raw material to measure the person’s self esteem.

Self esteem is really built into our character and you may have heard that term thrown about alot, and in fact, you may have used that term yourself. But do you know what it is actually? In terms of psychology, the term self esteem is actually tied down with a person’s ability to do an appraisal of his or her own abilities, self worth and their talents. In actual definition, you need to understand that self esteem is all about belief about themselves, and their ability to take on and tackle the world. There is alot of relationship in between self esteem and affirmation, or the ability to believe in oneself and the abilities that they have developed over time.

How to deal with the fear of losing someone

Jennifer woke up in a sweat, with the memories of last night’s dream still fresh and surreal.  She was having those darned nightmares again.  But those nightmares could not have been mere nightmares because they were haunting her even during her waking hours.

This one was like all the other dreams where she was running after a familiar person who would later on fall from a deep ravine.  And in all dreams, she was the one hero who was doing everything to save the same person from falling.  The funny thing is, she could not see his face.