How to Raise Self-Esteem in 7 Quick Steps

The first thing that you should do is to take a quick step back and appraise your life. For too long you have been looking from the inside out of your life, and you may not be able to spot the mistakes that you have been making, so you need to get yourself out of this perspective and look at the big picture. When you are able to look at the blueprint of your life, then you will be able to see what areas you need to strategise.

The Psychological Definition of Self Esteem and Self Concept

In the area of science of the mind and psychology, the definition of self esteem has many technical variations, but there is an umbrella concept that can adequately explain what self esteem and the concept of the self is actually. In laymen terms, self esteem is how a person measure’s his overall worth and this can be attributed to the sum total of his own gifts and abilities versus his perceived failures. When talking with jargon and terms lime ‘worth’, perhaps you may be assuming that there is some mathematics to the soul; and in this case there is – of sorts.

Overcoming Low Self Esteem in 3 Simple Steps

The first thing that you need to do is to get yourself out of the situation of being confused and battered in your life and to do this, you need to take a step back and take stock of the situation that is your life. More than likely, your life is a mess, and it is a mess because you have allowed yourself to slip in and out of disastrous situations and let yourself come upon wall upon wall of negativity. You need to take a deep breath and meditate. Remember that thing in your chest you call your heart? When was the last time you have listened to it? What needs to be done is you need to internalise yourself and calm yourself down. Listen to the rhythm of your heart and slow it down a minute and take a pause. Look at your life from a top down perspective and from there, you can identify what has been going wrong with your life.

The Uses of a Self Esteem Test

One of the more popular self esteem tests that exist within the psychological circles is the ten question battery test, which is modeled after many of the older self esteem tests in the psychological world of old, and has and shares the same principles. The popular methods nowadays actually measure things like implicit self esteem, which can be done with the Name Letter Task, as well as the Implicit Association Test. Another test is the Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale, which measures the actual self esteem within a person through questionnaires. These questions have been sculpted for the very purpose of assessing the cognitive elements within the psyche of a person, using that raw material to measure the person’s self esteem.

Using Daily Affirmations

Let Yourself Know How Great You Are

Religious people might actually have a good idea. Next time, when you hear the chant of monks, the homily in a Catholic Church, the singing from the Gregorian, remember that it is a way of affirmation of themselves and of their faith. And you can use it to affirm yourselves.

People from all walks of life use affirmations to keep themselves going. Warriors, merchants, students, even politicians. This is because affirmations are a surefire way of reminding the self of their choices and their goals.

Fear of failure

Failure is success in disguise

Juris, a surgeon, was only three years old when he learned that one must fail in order to learn and to strive for more.  However, such philosophizing was not known to him then as he was still too young.  He only began to realize it as such when confronted with failure in his personal life and career.

His realization came hazily as his memories of such a tender age were faded by time.  What he can remember though, is that he was always striving hard to learn how to bike.  His mom and dad bought him a bike too big for his age and so he had difficulty in using the pedals.

Fear of people

Rising above one’s fear of people

Hannah possesses a voice that can lull even angels to sleep.  She has that quality of voice that soothes the tired senses, and makes one feel relaxed and at ease.  However, her audience has yet to hear Hannah sing as she does not have the guts to do it in public.

She tried it once, when she was still in high school but it caused her shame and pain.  She can never forget that incident as she stood on the stage, holding the mike, without any voice coming out from her.  She was ready all right, but the sight of all those people looking at her made her voice disappear.

Fear of Rejection

Fear of rejection can lead to a vicious cycle of rejection.

Fiona, a marketing specialist of one of the biggest malls in town, offered her hand to her client and then she stood up and walked out of the room with her head held high.  She was feeling so victorious after closing a million-dollar deal with a mall sponsor who agreed to shoulder the advertising expense for their new world campaign.  She can already hear her voice singing as she got inside her car and started the ignition.