The “Can Do” Attitude Can Take You Places

Ever noticed we are never really quiet inside our own minds? Try it out. When we sit in a corner, away from others for a break, we keep on thinking. We can’t stop ourselves from thinking. As long as the body feeds us sensory data from the environment, we respond to the environment.

In prehistoric times, man relied on his instincts to survive. Scientists have called this the fight-flight response in which a person instantly chooses to fight and overcome his adversary or run away to survive.

Self-confidence is one’s belief in oneself. It refers to one’s confidence in his actions, beliefs and competencies. Having self-confidence is the key towards a successful and fulfilling life.

Self-talk can be described as that little voice inside one’s head which can either be beneficial or detrimental to one’s self-confidence. This inner voice usually critiques, give comments, or praise one’s deeds and actions.

There are different views about self-talk in relation to building self-confidence. Some people may associate self-talk to the obstacles towards attaining true confidence in oneself. This can be true in the cases of people who have no drive to take the pessimism out of their heads. This can later become a vicious cycle where a person is perpetually trapped in a downward spiral of self-esteem decline.

It’s a cliché to say that the eyes are the windows to the soul, but in more ways than one, they are. The eyes are also the mirrors of self-confidence. A person can easily assess another person’s self-confidence by engaging in eye contact. People with low self-confidence hate making eye contact. They would tend to look at the ground as if they are looking for a lost coin.

Shake Hands to Improve Self-Confidence

Body language portrays a person’s self-confidence. Shaking hands is a big part of a person’s body language. First impressions are based partly on how a person does his handshakes.

Handshakes are traced back into Ancient Egypt, around 2,800 B.C. During those times, the right hand is the hand which carries weapons. When a person offers a clean, unarmed right hand to another person, it is a sign of peace and goodwill. Handshakes have endured the test of time and it is still widely accepted as a form of social greeting in our modern times.

Walking with Confidence

People walk all the time, but the fact is, most people are afraid of walking. People would tend to look at the street (literally) rather than put their heads up and look at the people who are walking along with them. Some would stare at big billboards and advertisements, take out their phones from their pockets and pretend to call someone and do other stuff while walking. These are common signs of poor self-confidence and these are all manifested in walking.

Stand Out with Self-Confidence

Body language speaks of a whole lot of things, including a person’s self-confidence. Self-confidence or the lack of it can be manifested in many ways, one of which is through body posture.

Body posture is the way one carries himself. It can be a basis for making first impressions which generally dictates the image of person in the eyes of another. Making good first impressions can be very beneficial. Take job interviews for example, most final interviews end within 20 seconds. Of course, the interview itself can take an hour or so, but the verdict has been made seconds after the applicant enters the room. He is generally evaluated through his gestures, body language and posture.

Failure is success in disguise

Juris, a surgeon, was only three years old when he learned that one must fail in order to learn and to strive for more.  However, such philosophizing was not known to him then as he was still too young.  He only began to realize it as such when confronted with failure in his personal life and career.

His realization came hazily as his memories of such a tender age were faded by time.  What he can remember though, is that he was always striving hard to learn how to bike.  His mom and dad bought him a bike too big for his age and so he had difficulty in using the pedals.

Rising above one’s fear of people

Hannah possesses a voice that can lull even angels to sleep.  She has that quality of voice that soothes the tired senses, and makes one feel relaxed and at ease.  However, her audience has yet to hear Hannah sing as she does not have the guts to do it in public.

She tried it once, when she was still in high school but it caused her shame and pain.  She can never forget that incident as she stood on the stage, holding the mike, without any voice coming out from her.  She was ready all right, but the sight of all those people looking at her made her voice disappear.

Fear of rejection can lead to a vicious cycle of rejection.

Fiona, a marketing specialist of one of the biggest malls in town, offered her hand to her client and then she stood up and walked out of the room with her head held high.  She was feeling so victorious after closing a million-dollar deal with a mall sponsor who agreed to shoulder the advertising expense for their new world campaign.  She can already hear her voice singing as she got inside her car and started the ignition.

Fear: The Natural Enemy of Self Confidence

Self-Confidence is generally described as the ability of an individual to have faith and believe in his/her abilities.  According to psychiatrists when one has self-confidence it normally results in having great self-esteem.

Self-esteem is defined as the “worth” that one can place on himself. It is his measurement of his own value as a person, in agreement to his behavior.

In addition, it is referred to as the respect and adoration in which one holds himself based on ones belief of what and who he is as a human being. This greatly affects one’s feelings about himself, about his life, about his relationships, and eventually determines his actions or how he accomplishes things.