The first thing that you should do is to take a quick step back and appraise your life. For too long you have been looking from the inside out of your life, and you may not be able to spot the mistakes that you have been making, so you need to get yourself out of this perspective and look at the big picture. When you are able to look at the blueprint of your life, then you will be able to see what areas you need to strategise.
One of the ways that you can tell if someone does not have that much confidence within them is by the way they speak, the words that they use, the tone and the overall volume. You would classify these people as decidedly soft spoken and sometimes even shy, when looking at the relationship of their body language to the way that they speak as well. There is a way to speak with confidence and this article will detail some of the steps that you need to know about to speak with the sort of conviction necessary to project yourself as someone who is commanding and confident.
Confidence is actually half the battle won in mot situations, as well as being a very powerful psychological effect on everyone around you. Confidence is belief, it is purpose and it is movement, it drives you towards a situation where failure is not an option and ‘trying your best’ is just a popular euphemism – even a cliché you might call it.
There is a lot of relationship and synergy going around when talking about affirmation and self esteem and this is why. The problem with low confidence is belief and the existence of a paramount amount of negative energy. This energy can come in the form of insults, failures, stress and other negative factors that have the effect of lowering your self confidence on a daily basis.
Many mind experts actually will attest to you that self esteem is one of the most important things when talking about the development of a child. What they are talking about is the developmental years of a child, which would be somewhere within the range from when they were born to somewhere around the 6 – 7 age group. Now, at this point of their lives, their minds are very susceptible to suggestion and how they make sense of things when they are at this point of their lives is through basic experiential stimulation and association.
The definition of someone who mopes is really someone who is dragging their feet all over the place, with no self-confidence, believing that the world is better off without them and finally convincing himself or herself that they are worth as much as bag of money with the bottom ripped open. Surely, you have seen or met this person before, and it seems that a dark cloud seems to follow them where ever they go. It rains when they come and generally, they spoil the party atmosphere faster than someone with bad gas. In fact, you could have been this person at one time or another and it does not feel good to be going around in the world thinking of dark things like death and suicide and cutting and drugs and overdose – they wear you out pretty fast.
The first step that you need to take is to know that you have self esteem issues in the first place and this can be the hardest thing for you to do. Admitting that you have lost some of your confidence and that you need to do something about it can be a hard fact to swallow but you need to start listening to what people close to you are saying about you and one of the most important things you need to understand is that it is their advice that will be the alert you need. Once you know that you have a self-esteem issue, you then need to proceed on to step two.
In the area of science of the mind and psychology, the definition of self esteem has many technical variations, but there is an umbrella concept that can adequately explain what self esteem and the concept of the self is actually. In laymen terms, self esteem is how a person measure’s his overall worth and this can be attributed to the sum total of his own gifts and abilities versus his perceived failures. When talking with jargon and terms lime ‘worth’, perhaps you may be assuming that there is some mathematics to the soul; and in this case there is – of sorts.
Losing confidence is something that is really not strange and even the best of us have come across a time or situation when they felt that they were not up to their 100%, and because of this, they start to lose confidence about themselves and their own abilities. The strange thing about abilities is that they only work if you believe in them. It really is not some magic formula or some spell that you cast over yourself, but it is really a question of believing in something and making it work.
You need to start focusing on the things that make you a great person and this can be anything from how well your hair sits on your head to how well you can drink a beer in under 5 seconds. It can be anything and everything and what you need to do is to focus on these things and get that natural confident glow back. If need be, it is time to write down all the things that make you great and even convert the things that you thought were quite bad about you into good things. Are you lanky? Then you are 1/3 of tall, dark and handsome.